“I’m going to start working out and then I’ll get all of the girls. There’s no point in trying until I get into shape.”
A friend told me how he planned on getting in shape to meet women. His only purpose for lifting weights was to get girls to notice him. Many of us will get into lifting because we think it’s the key to meeting women. Some men will fully get into working out just to be more attractive to women. I won’t pretend like I started training for health or any other reason. I also wanted to be jacked to meet girls.
Does working out get you laid? Should you start hitting the gym to increase your odds of getting laid more often?
I don’t buy that any young male gets into lifting weights for health reasons. Every young dude in the gym just wants to look better to be hotter so that they can meet more potential partners. There’s nothing wrong with that either. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for why you train.
This leads to the obvious question…
Does working out lead to you getting laid?
Not really. Not directly.
A six pack will always be nice to look at. Nobody will begrudge you for being jacked and taking care of your body. It’s always a positive quality to be in shape.
There’s a huge But…
You still have to be able to string a sentence together. Your social skills have to be there. You can’t assume that your physique will be enough. You can’t assume that she will want to hook up with you or date you because you have bigger biceps than the other guy.
Girls don’t care about your body fat percentage or how much you can bench. They like it when you look respectable, but you’re better off focusing on some interesting hobbies instead of stressing about protein 24/7.
What’s the shocking truth about working out and getting laid?
The shocking truth is this: it never hurts to be in shape, but you need to have more to you than just being jacked.
The process of trying to better yourself will make you more confident, which will open you up to meeting more women. However, you can easily cross into arrogant territory with your new confidence (my life story). I’m speaking from personal experience. I’ve expected women to be into me in the past just because of my physique. That’s not how it works.
You also don’t want to spend your life in the gym. It’s difficult to get good at dating if you’re always counting your macros or talking about your lifts. The trick is to find that perfect balance. You want to be fit enough to be attractive, but you still want to have the social skills to be decent at dating.
This is why I swear by the one meal a day diet. I don’t want to spend my life focused on meal prep and trying to get enough protein in. There’s more to life than stressing about food.
Should you train?
Your motivation to workout has to be about more than just getting laid. That sort of motivation won’t last. I now train because I love it and love to challenge myself. It’s you vs you in the gym. Nothing else matters. You put your headphones on and get to work. Boom!
If I worked out just to get laid, I would’ve stopped training a long time ago because I’ve had girlfriends over the years that don’t care about body at all. I still kept on training because I embraced the challenge. I didn’t stop or start because of how someone I was courting felt about exercise.
What’s your motivation to train? I hope it’s more than just about getting sex next Friday.
Of course, you want to be as jacked as possible to simplify life.
The secret about looking good…
Men don’t have to be good looking. They just have to look good. You don’t have to be 240lbs of muscle to be considered fit. You can try fasting to get abs. You can do more pull-ups to have a wider back.
I have friends with average/terrible physiques who get laid more than my fit friends. Why? They possess the following qualities:
- Always smiling.
- Looking presentable in general.
Girls really do want to have fun. I know a female friend who left a ridicously jacked dude (like freaky levels of jacked) because she was bored. She got tired of meal prep and sitting around the house. She wanted to date a fun guy.
You don’t have to spend hours in the gym to look good or feel good. Something as simple as a walk in the sun followed by a healthy meal, can do wonders for your mood.
A final word of warning about working out and getting laid.
Girls are not into THAT guy.
I swear, if you’re reading this, you better not be THAT GUY. I don’t want anyone reading this to be that guy. Girls are not attracted to that guy.
What does THAT GUY do? What are some signs that you could be THAT GUY?
- Shows up to a restaurant in a tank top.
- Posts mirror shots on Facebook.
- Checks in at the gym on a daily basis on social media.
- Critiques the meal of someone.
- Judges those that don’t look perfect.
- Gives unsolicited advice on working out to those that don’t care about this kind of stuff.
- Takes shirt off at the worst times possible.
- Writes about their workout on Facebook.
Is this you? The good news is that you can change your ways!
How do you get laid?
- Go out.
- Become more interesting.
- Be social.
- Have fun.
Don’t start working out only because you think it will get you laid. That motivation won’t last. Try other things. Learn how to approach strangers. Be a fun person to be around. Don’t think that an extra inch to your biceps will take care of everything. It won’t. The only people you’ll impress with your heavier lifts is the other dudes at the gym. Sorry.
If you’re convinced that working out will get you laid, then what will happen if you meet your partner when you’re in shape and then lose your figure? Will they leave you?
Working out will help you with getting laid because you’re going to feel damn amazing, your stamina will improve, and you’re always going to be ready to go. The process of getting into the habit of training will open up your entire world.